I am just wondering where romance fits into all this. I bet there are a lot of people who wonder. But I feel that I need someone to share my experiences with and to be there for and to turn to when I need someone etc. Is romance a worthy goal? Or is it a distraction from the goal of evolving, activating or growing spiritually or whatever it is we are trying to achieve?
Also I am wondering about children. With what I am vaguely aware of in the universe outside of the limited world that my eyes and ears have general access to, there is a lot going on. And I am choosing to advance myself spiritually, and activate myself etc. which I am not even 100 percent on what that means, but my daughters who are sixteen and twenty years old have no idea about any of this and if I try to mention any of this to them, they ignore me and think I am crazy. So my point is that I am so connected to them and responsible for them, and I know that they could never function or be okay without me, how can I evolve in any way or do anything that would separate me from them?? If I have to choose between total freedom, or being here for them when they cannot move on, I would stay here and be here for them, I would give everything up for them no matter the price or how long the price lasts.
Here is my inner standing based on my personal experience:
There are many paths you can take. You may or may not find a companion to travel this road with. That's ok. Just be here. Bring your intention to your awareness. Why do you desire romance? What kind of relationship do you have with yourself? Something to ponder.
If you intend to answer these questions, and then work out the answers, a person that compliments you will cross your path. He will not necessarily "complete" you because you will be at a place where you innerstand the Wholeness you're seeking is from an internal process not external, but I've found complimentary fellowship of any kind is elevating. If you're looking for someone to complete you, you will not find it.
When that person has become part of your life, you trust them, the relationship is healthy, and you've been practicing sexual alchemy (http://www.resistance2010.com/forum/topics/the-inner-alchemy-sexual...), the role of romance becomes more clear. Romance, I've found, is playful, joyful, uplifting, dynamic (which can reveal areas to work on in personal practice/study), and in union, becomes a connection to source energy.
The bond between a mother and her children is inherent. Never on this path will you be asked to "leave your children behind". They are you. You do not have to feel guilty for pursing freedom. When you heal yourself, you heal others. It will be in your actions, not your words, that your message to your children will resonate.
Hope this helps, siStar!
Wholeness Stacey. Romance is like the Little Pig that built his house made of straw...short-lived. Romance is for TV. That's why people who marry others based on the concept that he or she is "so romantic," usually falter in that relationship or wind up getting divorced. Don't buy into it because it is you trying to be happy based on someone on the outside of you doing a set of "wonderful things" to keep "you" smiling. The inner work that you continue to do on yourself will magnetize the right "reflection" (mate) for you, but guess what? That person will only be another mirror held up for you to see deeper into who you are. It is great that the Supreme Being (you) loves you so much to draw you to different manifestations of yourself so you can keep expanding. Now that is wonderful! I'm so glad my marriage is not built on romance. If I had relied on romance to keep me charged about my relationship, it would've ended in the first year (lol), and we've been enjoying each other's essences now for 17 years! :)
About your daughters...most children don't want anything to do with any phenomenon that's causing their parent to change all of a sudden. Don't push it on them. I wouldn't even speak to them about it. Just keep learning and adjusting into your new way of being/living. They will see your changes and may latch on...and even if they don't you have to look at what you're embarking upon as for the "greater good" of humanity, which is you anyway. So ultimately, they WILL benefit. If we see ALL as extensions of ourselves, we don't become so bogged down with trying to rescue certain individuals or a certain group.
Also, change doesn't appear how we want it to all the time. Part of your daughters' growth may actually include their resistance to what it is you are embarking upon.
This is so very important, I am still crossing this bridge. I can only speak from what I've experienced, also having shared the same feelings as you. Knowing that leaving our loved ones behind or in the dark is not an option, the conclusion I reached that is logical enough for me to live with is; moving on to what would be my comfort zone is knowing where I should be, this is leaving the door open for them when they choose to walk through it once they feel waking up is essential for their growth. Staying on the same level they are on is not an option for me, nor is it good for their growth if we remain stagnant. Don't worry they will catch up, curiosity allows them to grow, as we grow they will also. I hope this helps.
All the opinions from the awakened Brothers and Sisters are phenomenal and to the point, I value each and every one of you.